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How To Mend From Heartbreak

Welcome to How To Mend From Heartbreak

Start here: How to use this program
Welcome message from your host, Elle
Your invitation to the Mend Community

Mending: Beginning Your Journey Inward

Tiny Steps
Let It Go
Breakups Are Normal
When It's Time To Let Go
Worthy
True Love Doesn't Hurt
Was It Love?
Knowing Your Self Worth
What If...?
Two Arrows
Loving Yourself: A Simple List
Walking Away
The Role Of Places
Telling People About Your Breakup
How To Start Being More Yourself
Waiting For Closure (left ear bud)
Taking Ownership
Moving Forward From Ruminating
Finding Your New Routine
Finding Support
Embrace Yourself
Saying Goodbye To A Future
Going Through Your First Heartbreak
Letting Go Of Excuses
What Will Your Breakup Monument Be?
Where You're Going

The Mend 60-Day Ex Detox

The Ex Factor
Detoxing From Your Ex
Why You're Still Talking To Your Ex
Putting Aside Pride
How To Start Your Ex Detox
The Sweep: Your Breakup Box
The Digital Sweep
Tips For Your Ex Detox
When Your Ex Detox Ends: On Day 60
If You See Your Ex (left ear)
Unavoidable Ex Contact
If Your Ex Wants To Be Friends
A Letter To Your Ex
Does Your Ex Still Care?
It Takes A Village
Why Exes Return & What To Do
Reclaim Your Space

Feel Better: Evidence-Backed Self Care Practices

Why Self Care Matters
How To Schedule In Self Care Time
Tips For Better Post-Breakup Sleep
Write It Down
What Is Resilience?
How To Build Resilience
The Power of Touch
How Your Posture Can Help you Mend
How To Boost Your Happiness
A Good Day
Hydrate: How Water Helps You Heal
Three Questions For Daily Gratitude
A Guided Walk: Cohosted With Meditation Teacher Megan Monahan
Three Things: An Exercise To Boost Self Esteem
Healing With Aromatherapy
Forgiveness
An Ancient Forgiveness Practice
Give A Compliment
A Gratitude Exercise To Lift Your Mood
Finding Healthy Productivity After A Breakup
Finding Community
Make A Connection
Practice Acting As If
Learn Something New

The Emotions: Advice For Common Post-Breakup Feelings

The Benefit Of Tracking Your Emotions
The Importance Of Feeling Your Emotions
The Emotional Brain
Why Loneliness Post-Breakup Is Important
When You Feel Resistant To Change
How To Deal With Disappointment
When Your Breakup Feels Unfair
How To Alleviate Loneliness At Home
The Fear Of Being Alone Forever
Victim Mentality & How It Holds You Back
A Mantra To Shift Out Of Victim Mentality
Strategies To Get Out Of A Victim Mentality
Letting Go Of Anger: When You Feel Angry At Your Ex
How To Channel Anger
When You Want To Get Revenge
Tips When You're Feeling Overwhelmed
Head vs. Heart
The Fear Of Letting Go Of Your Ex
Understanding Your Relationship With Grief
Finding Space To Grieve Your Relationship
Grief: A Journaling Exercise
Taking Tabs On Your Grief: An Activity
Grief In Color: An Activity
Overcoming The Shock Of Your Breakup
If You Feel Like Only Your Ex Understood You
When You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You
Feeling Shame
Feeling Out Of Control
Why Comparing To Others Robs You Of Confidence
When You're Feeling Stuck In One Emotion
Feeling Like You Lost Your Best Friend
The Emotional Armor Of Self Esteem

The Science of Heartbreak: What You Need To Know

The Science Behind Your Breakup
Why Heartbreak Hurts
Why You Miss Your Ex
Why You Feel Lonely
Why Crying Is Healthy
The Science Of Grief
How A Breakup Changes Your Body

The Why: Common Reasons Relationships End

Love vs. Toxic Love
Commitment: The Most Common Breakup Reason Amongst Menders
"Sort Of" or "Almost" Relationships
On Again Off Again Relationships
Emotional Availability
Three Signs They May Have Been Emotionally Unavailable
Why We Are Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable People
Incompatibility: Oil And Water
When Incompatibility Ruins A Relationship
Compatible Lifestyles
The Thing About Cheating
Infidelity: Wandering Eye
How To Mend When Someone Cheats
Letting Go After Infidelity
Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity
What Is Codependence?
The Root Of Codependency
How To Break Free From Codependence
Unrequited Love: When It's Not Mutual
Timing: When Timelines Clash
When Their Actions Don't Match
Toxicity: Walking Away From An Unhealthy Partner
Reasons Why We Fall Out Of Love
Fears of Abandonment
The Loneliness Of Long Distance Breakups
When The Other Person Is Married

The Power Tools: Mindfulness, Breath & Self Compassion

How Meditation Helps You Mend
Aha, This Is...
Matching Inhale & Exhale Breathing Exercise
Relaxing Breathwork
Being Less Reactive: Noticing Triggers
Gratitude Expansion Exercise
Self Compassion Isn't Indulgent
A Compassion Exercise Towards Your Ex
Finding Time To Turn Inward
Mindful Moments At Work
Mantra For Calm & Clarity
Mantra For New Beginnings
Mantra For Releasing Need To Control Things
Mantra For Boosting Your Energy
Mantra For Asserting Boundaries
Mantra For Laughter
Mantra For Feeling Safe & Secure
Mantra For Letting Go
Mantra For Self Love
Mantra For Shedding Labels
Mantra For Accepting The Love You Deserve
Mantra For Creating Happiness For Yourself

The Questions: Most Common Heartbreak Questions

What Could I Have Done Differently?
Why Not Me?
What Is My Ex Doing On Instagram?
Will I Ever Meet Someone Like My Ex Again?
Will I Ever Meet Someone Like My Ex Again? (Part 2)
Can I Be Friends With My Ex?
Will They Change For Me?
Why Is Everyone Else Getting Married?
Why Wasn't I Enough?
Why Do I Put Up With Bad Behavior?
Does My Ex Still Care About Me?
Did My Ex Really Love Me?
How Did My Ex Move On So Quickly?
Why Am I Still Angry?
Should I Rekindle My Relationship?
How Do I Go Back To Work After This?
When Will I Be Ready To Date Again?
Am I Ready To Date? Specific Questions To Ask Yourself

Thoughts: You Are What You Think

The Power Of Thoughts
Witnessing Your Own Thoughts
Empowering Thoughts
How To Counter Negative Thoughts
Critic vs. Cheerleader
Breaking The Cycle Of Self Criticism
Creating A Healthy Inner Voice
Everything Is Temporary
Processing vs. Obsessing
Practical Ways To Deal With Obsessive Thinking
Obsessing Over A Text
Living In Congruence

The Friends: Common Issues With Friends Post-Breakup

The Mutual Friends
Crowdsourced Friend Advice
Unsupportive Support
Telling Your Friends
Tips For Social Anxiety
Sharing Happiness
Solo Sunday
Rekindle Friendships
Pick Up The Phone
How To Be A Compassionate Ex
Friend Jealousy
Eating Instagram For Breakfast
Dealing With Unwanted Comments About Being Single
Do I Unfriend My Ex's Loved Ones?
Comparison Game
Insta-shock
A Friend Date

Post-Breakup Nourishment: Healing From The Inside Out

Waking Up To Feel Good Practices
The Super Foods That Help With Grief
When Food Becomes Your BFF
Building New Routines In The Kitchen
The Thing About Coffee
The Self Care Practice Of Mindful Eating
The Calming Effects Of Super Foods
Nourish Your Needs
How To Deal With Trigger Foods
How To Recognize Emotional Eating
Foods That Love You Back
Best Foods To Mend A Broken Heart
Food And Happiness
From The Inside Out
Eating For One
Cultivating Positive Body Image
How To Have Positive Body Image In The Face Of Rejection
Cooking For Yourself
Alcohol Is Not Your Friend
The Mend Guide To Eating For Heartbreak [Ebook]
The Mend Guide To Sipping For Heartbreak [Ebook]

The Ex Files: Advice For Common Ex Scenarios

How To Start Your Ex Detox
Exes And Birthdays
Feeling Bad After Sleeping With Your Ex
How To Stay Grounded After An Ex Run-In
When An Ex Reaches Out: "Hey, How Are You?"
Running Into Your Ex
Mixed Feelings About Your Ex
Before You Reply
Saying No To Your Ex
Friends With Your Ex
When You Can't Avoid Seeing Your Ex
Finding A Way To Forgive An Ex
Thoughts About Your Ex
When Your Ex Didn't Want To Work Things Out
Where Your Ex Stands
When An Ex Gets Married
When Your Ex Wants You Back
When Your Ex Moves On
Waiting For Your Ex
What To Consider Before Sleeping With Your Ex
Validating Your Ex's Feelings
The I Miss You Game
The Beauty Of Sadess Is In Knowing Happiness
What Happens When You Hook Up With Your Ex
Mending When Your Ex Is Emotionally Unavailable
Friends With Benefits
Apology Letter To Your Ex
Rereading The Past
Coming To Terms

The Journey: Bumps & Milestones Along The Way

Benefits Of Remaining Single For A Bit
Being Yourself
Seeking Support From Professionals
Bye, Timelines!
When You're Feeling Stuck
Is It Time To See Therapist?
Bouncing Back After A Relapse
Attending A Wedding After Your Breakup
Stepping Stone
Ups And Downs
Ways To Cope With The Valentine's Day Blues
Healing On Your Own Timeline
What Matters To You In The Long Term?
Ex Anniversary Blues
Setting A Date
The Timeline
Stepping Up Your Self Discipline
Rebounds
Red Flags Around Rebounding
How To Prepare For A Bad Day
Remaining Open
Overcoming Self Sabotage
Moving Forward From Ruminating
Team Mend's Holiday Message For You
Happy Valentine's Day
First Valentine's Day Without Your Ex
Making Peace With Unanswered Questions
Resources If You've Experienced Emotional Abuse
The Ebbs And Flows Of Relationships
Moving Forward If There's A Chance Of Getting Back Together
Forgiving Yourself

The Future: Rebuilding Your Life

Dating: How & When To Approach Relationships Again

What You Deserve
The Case For Being Single
Bad Sex With Someone New
Avoiding Comparison On Dates
Date Yourself
Overcoming Dating Insecurities
When You Feel Sad After A Date
When Dating Brings Out Insecurities
Your Dating Values
Breaking The Cycle
Being Yourself When Dating
How To Recover From A So-So Date
Setting Yourself Up For Success
Your Dating Profile
Dating With An Open Mind
The Mend Guide To Preparing For A Date Part 1
The Mend Guide To Preparing For A Date Part 2
Waiting To Date
When Are You Ready To Date?
Dating An Ex's Friend
Getting Ghosted After A Date
How To Spot Emotional Availability When Dating
Preparing To Date Again
The Key To Dating
Overcoming The Fear Of Dating Again
Too Busy To Date
Controlling The Butterflies In Your Stomach
One Night Stands
Are You Dating An Emotionally Unavailable Person?

The Next One: Relationships & Intimacy Post-Breakup

Facing The Fear Of Being Alone
Beware Of NRE (New Relationship Energy)
Avoiding The Friend Zone
Dealing With An Emotionally Unavailable Partner
Keeping Healthy Space In A Relationship
Calling All Fixers
Loving Again
Capitalization
Maintaining Balance
Communicating Emotions In Relationships: Primary vs. Secondary Emotions
How To Be Upfront About Your Relationship Needs
The Key To Healthy Sex Life
Feeling Hopeless About Love
Sleeping With Someone New
Rebuilding Trust
Trusting Again After Heartbreak
When You're Hesitant To Be Official
When Your New Partner Questions Your Relationship With An Ex
When Your Partner Is At Work More Than With You
What Happens If You Catch Feelings Again For An Ex After A Breakup
Mind Reading
What Do I Want In My Next Partner?
Red Flags
Trouble Orgasming With A New Partner
The Elusive Orgasm
Ticket For One
The Wrong Partner
Say Hi
Staying Whole
Relationship Status
One Way To Communicate About Sex
No One Can Ever Replace You
Addressing Issues

Mending After Divorce & Coparenting

How To Successfully Coparent With Your Ex Spouse
Rediscovering Yourself After A Divorce
How Do I Tell My Kids?
A Broken Engagement
Am I Ready To Date After Divorce?

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